Under what circumstances a serious competitive aspirant may get deviated ::

Its a year long preparation journey..you be at home or at hostel...keep attending class..study..attend test..sometimes..some family issues..distrub ur mental peace..may not let you focus on your studies..sometimes you feel nobody is there to understand you properly..somedays you are fed up with this journey and feel so lonely,...here comes the stage where you become vulnerable ..i was also at this stage..a guy came into my life..he himself used to come to me,.talk to me..wherever i go follows..saying he likes you a lot..already you feel alone..and now you are given attention by someone..how do you feeL?

WILL U NOT FEEL GOOD?.. HE TALKS IN A CARING MANNNER..ITS LIKE WATERING YOUR LONELY DESERT..IT WILL FEEL SO GOOD..BUT YOU DONT KNOW WHERE IT WILL TAKE YOU..WHAT WILL BE ITS RESULT...INITALLY..WHEN NO GUY was in my life..i study..attend class..talk to family..when i go to bed my thoughts will be about what i studied that day and sleep comes early and peacefully since you put effort for that day and didnt waste the day..but now with this coming of new guy into ur life..you wil be like..i should finish studying early so that can go to him and chat..have fun..what will he say...that eagarness..wil be there in thought and not what you studied that day..gradually..chatting time increases..studying time decreases..at one point..you get totally deviated from your goal..and do love chats..which is actually not love..the moment the guy started to give compliments about ur looks..you spend a lot of time on mirror..always try to keep your looks beautiful..because you got the good compliments and now you want it to increase and not decrease...thus totally deviated from ur studies..lose sleep for chatting..get dark circles..mother will worry about you since she sees you with phone always and not studying..you give preference to chatting and not talking to your family members..lose touch with the reality..but where will it take you..

At one point that guy will lose interest in just chatting..he will want to go for real talks..real romances..and your time will only go waste..and its not just about the time..your emotional health is also affected..you become attached to him emotionally..suddenly leaving him wil not be so easy..instead of giving attempt this year..you postpone to another year..all this you do for true love? no man..he is with you because he thinks you look beautiful,,whenever he says he loves you..loves you..it actually means he is in infactuation with you..because if its true love..when you say how you are deviated from your studies now after his coming into your life..he will take up responsibility and not do late night chats..you get dark circles..doesnt matter to him..you dont talk to family..doesnt matter to him..you dont study at all.. doesnt matter to him..but continues to say..i love youuuuu..never fall in such a trap..if fallen its high time you wake up and get back to your goal..yes it feellss so good to chat with him..but all this goodness wil be just temporary..the real one comes after you pass the exam..thats the long lasting one..so you have to sacrfice now..for your long term happiess...come on..lets get back to preparation..lets plan and put to do list and study...i know saying is so easy..the transition from studies to love and sex chat was so easy but now the transition from sex chat to studies is so difficult..negative habits will stick to us easier than positive habits..when i close my eyes, whatever he said in romantic way is what comes to my mind..distrubs me badly..since im used up to chatting eating sleeping..mind doesnt accept to leave this comfort zone and get back to studies easily..but we have to move on..there are many people who believes on us ..apart from that..we ourself want to come forward in life..so im deleting all the memories I created with him..else i keep see it and think of it again..its like addiction..

Its a lesson for me now

Suggestion for others of my situation 

When you have higher goals before you

You must maintain Discipline else..it will totally take you away from your goals.